Dear Divine Feminine,

As you embark your femininity journey and tap into your divine essence you may come across a few unhinged personalities. In light of the “Idaho four” we learned the perpetrator stalked his victim’s for at least ten months prior to the incident. I think it’s time we change the narrative regarding stalking and harassment and take these unwanted advantages serious. Understanding the mindset of a stalker is vital. Often times you never know what may set them off as their ego’s are typically fragile so educating yourself on the types of stalking can be of some assistance to you. Understand that when dealing with this personality type the obsessive behavior is often about power and control. 

The Four types of Stalking

According to stalkingrisk.com there are four types of stalkers.

1. The Rejected Stalker– “Rejected stalking arises in the context of the breakdown of a close relationship. Victims are usually former sexual intimates; however family members, close friends, or others with a very close relationship to the stalker can also become targets of Rejected stalking. The initial motivation of a Rejected stalker is either attempting to reconcile the relationship, or to exacting revenge for a perceived rejection. In many cases Rejected stalkers present as ambivalent about the victim and sometimes appear to want the relationship back, while at other times they are clearly angry and want revenge on the victim. In some cases of protracted stalking, the behaviour is maintained because becomes a substitute for the past relationship as it allows the stalker to continue to feel close to the victim. In other cases the behaviour is maintained because it allows the stalker to salvage their damage self-esteem and feel better about themselves.”

2. The Resentful stalker– “Resentful stalking arises when the stalker feels as though they have been mistreated or that they are the victim of some form of injustice or humiliation. Victims are strangers or acquaintances who are seen to have mistreated the stalker. Resentful stalking can arise out of a severe mental illness when the perpetrator develops paranoid beliefs about the victim and uses stalking as a way of ‘getting back’ at the victim. The initial motivation for stalking is the desire for revenge or to ‘even the score’ and the stalking is maintained by the sense of power and control that the stalker derives from inducing fear in the victim. Often Resentful stalkers present themselves as a victim who is justified in using stalking to fight back against an oppressing person or organisation.”

3. Intimacy Seeking – “stalking arises out of a context of loneliness and a lack of a close confidante. Victims are usually strangers or acquaintances who become the target of the stalker’s desire for a relationship. Frequently Intimacy Seeking stalkers’ behaviour is fuelled by a severe mental illness involving delusional beliefs about the victim, such as the belief that they are already in a relationship, even though none exists (erotomanic delusions). The initial motivation is to establish an emotional connection and an intimate relationship. The stalking is maintained by the gratification that comes from the belief that they are closely linked to another person.”

4. The Incompetent Suitor– ” stalks in the context of loneliness or lust and targets strangers or acquaintances. Unlike the Intimacy Seeker, however, their initial motivation is not to establish a loving relationship, but to get a date or a short term sexual relationship. Incompetent Suitors usually stalk for brief periods, but when they do persist their behaviour is usually maintained by the fact that they are blind or indifferent to the distress of victim. Sometimes this insensitivity is associated with cognitive limitations or poor social skills consequent to autism spectrum disorders.”

5. Predatory Stalker-” stalking arises in the context of deviant sexual practices and interests. Perpetrators are usually male and victims are usually female strangers in whom the stalker develops a sexual interest. The stalking behaviour is usually initiated as a way of obtaining sexual gratification (e.g., voyeurism targeting a single victim over time), but can also be used a way of obtaining information about the victim as a precursor to a sexual assault. In this sense the stalking is both instrumental and also gratifying for those stalkers who enjoy the sense of power and control that comes from targeting the usually unsuspecting victim.”

What is the objective of a stalker ?

According to exploringyourmind.com “the objective of a stalker is to access the life of a person they want or love, even if doing so is not appropriate. Through fear, they slowly take over every aspect of their victim’s life. Psychologists divide stalkers in to two general groups: psychotic and not psychotic. Stalkers in the former group have some kind of psychological disorder or mental imbalance. One step above bullies are stalkers. The term refers to those who watch, lie in wait for, and sometimes physically assault their victim or victims. They seek to be one step behind their victim at all times, not caring if it makes that person uncomfortable, or that it may interfere with that person’s daily life.”

What are the behaviors of a stalker?

The University of Missouri Kansas City cited stalking behavior as:

There are many behaviors that may be considered stalking:

• Repeatedly calling your phone, including hang-ups – sometimes using an unknown number
• Following you or showing up wherever you are
• Sending unwanted gifts, letters, texts, or emails
• Damaging your home, car, or other property
• Monitoring your phone calls or computer use, possibly through spyware
• Using technology, like hidden cameras, to watch what you do, or GPS, to track where you go
• Driving by or lingering near your home, school, or work
• Threatening to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets
• Performing other actions that control, track, or frighten you
• Using other people to try to communicate with you, like children, family, or friends

Cyberstalking

Since the rise if A.I stalkers now have the ability to stalk their victims online through social media and send harassing emails discreetly. The veil of A.I allows stalkers to harass victims without having to use conventional methods of stalking such as hiding in the bushes. Modern stalkers use now have the ability to hack into your computer and install recording surveliance devices in your home. “Cyberstalking does not necessarily involve direct communication, and some victims may not even realize that they are the victims of online stalking. The victims can be monitored through various methods and the information gathered can be later used for crimes such as identity theft. Some stalkers even go as far as harassing the victims offline as well and even contacting their friends.” (intellipaat.com)

Types of Cyberstalking

• “Catfishing: The creation of fake profiles or copying of existing ones on social media to approach victims.
• Monitoring check-ins on social media: Keeping an eye on the activities of a victim on social media to accurately gauge their behavior pattern.
• Spying via Google Maps and Google Street View: Using Street View to spy on a victim and find their location from posts or photos on social media.
• Hijacking webcam: Webcams can be hijacked by introducing malware-infected files into the victim’s computer.
• Installing stalker were: Stalkerware tracks the location, enables access to texts and browsing history, makes audio recordings, etc., without the victim’s knowledge.
• Tracking location with geotags: Digital pictures mostly have geotagged with the time and location of the picture if it is in the metadata format, which makes it easier for stalkers to access that information by using special apps.”(intellipaat.com)